The bad news??

I read where Dr. Laura is going off the air once her contract is up later this year.  Well, duh....it's not like they were going to renew her after her latest flap with the N-word, so I guess it was a nice face saving exit for her.  I guess my question is this:  where's the bad news in that?  I've only listened to her a couple of times and admittedly, those were only clips, since I found her so strident & arrogant, judgemental and off the wall, listening to her made my teeth hurt-- probably from clenching them.  And the fact that she is a licensed therapist really scares the daylights out of me.  Just what this world needs: one more head case being paid, to treat other head cases.  And one with a very ill black and white perspective.  No gray for Dr. Laura.  Nooooo.  I realize gaffs like this do generate publicity.  Just the wrong kind.

Don't get me wrong here.  I am definitely not dissing therapist.  A good one is worth their weight in gold and the relief and perspective shift they can give can be life altering.  Let's face it...not many of our heads are a safe neighborhood so don't go there alone--you might mug yourself.  Life can dish out some confusing and painful stuff and having an independent third party help you clean out the trash is truly a gift. 

So, how do you know who is a good therapist?  First of all, you nut up and ask around.  Yep, you do.  You out yourself and listen to what people say.  Then you filter out the stuff that just doesn't resonate with you.  Then you pry open your mind and commit to trying six times with a therapist before deciding if this person is right for you.  Your knower will know, so trust it.  If after six times you have walked away feeling slimed after any session, keep moving.  Finding out some new information about yourself should not be traumatizing--it may not feel wonderful but it should not make you feel "like its all your fault".  And lastly, it's often a long term learning experience.  Some stuff takes a while to sort through, some stuff is quicker.  I think of it as personal maintenance.  Heck...you do it for your car.  Do it for yourself.