Breaking the rules take enormous courage. Especially when the rules are long established ones you may have grown up with and accepted until you realized they just weren't who you are now or want to be. Carving out that space for yourself to be truly your authentic self takes loads of work and willingness to walk your own path--sometimes alone. That can be a little scary but so is the alternative. If staying where you are makes you unhappy, and your inner "knower" knows what you really want and need, start walking.
Grab someone you trust and ask them to "accompany" you along the way. Do not rely on your own ideas or thoughts--bounce them off someone else--before you act on them. Pause. Think it all the way through before you do something. Ask for guidance from whatever source you believe in. And most of all, honor who you are and your own path. Break any rules that do not work for you any longer. Say "No". It's a complete sentence.
We are not all the same. If we were, that would be an entirely different story--and a very boring one. You have your own gifts. Use them. What other people think of you is not your business. I believe we each have a job to do on this Earth that only we can do. Go do yours. I'm going to head out and go do mine. Let's both go be who we were created to be.
And that's just how I see it.