Congruence. It's my new favorite word. It means: agreement, harmony, etc. I realized this morning, I like it in almost everything but it's most important to me when I'm observing other people. If it's there, I'm comfortable. If it's missing, I'm on high alert.
When other people's words and actions don't match, they're sending me a signal that something's off, not quite right, funky. With that knowledge on board, I'm careful, watchful, observant. Once is a fluke, twice is a coincidence, three times is a pattern. When I see a pattern of incongruence in someone's behavior, it's like an internal alarm system goes off--Trouble Ahead. Make a Bat turn in your Batmobile, don't go there, run for the hills and keep on going.
Today I'm so glad to have this knowledge on board. It keeps me away from prickly situations and even worse, big trouble, unless I override my warning system telling myself "Oh, it's OK...that's not what I think it is". Oh, hell yes it is. I need to pay attention, and listen and learn. Otherwise, I'll keep making the same mistake over and over again, missing the lesson. Congruence: someone's words and actions match.
The roofers just arrived and I'm out of here for a little bit shortly. I'll leave Sis in charge. They sound like they are Sumo wrestling up there pulling off all the old shingles.